A friend once said, "People don't leave their work, they leave the population they work with." Personality dynamics play a large role in workplace satisfaction. eye a mind, body and spirit clarification to managing the Liam the Liars, Mean Girls and Gossiping Gails in your life.
This article wouldn't be potential without the gift of many people, each of whom you will be well acquainted with. It doesn't matter what club you work in, you always come across the same players.
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Let's meet some of the characters.
++ Liam the Liar ++
Depending on his prowess, it may take time before you find Liam the Liar.
As the lies roll off his tongue he is able to look you in the eye with a sincerity that does not raise alarm bells.
His true colors are only revealed when you start putting two and two together and the evidence runs through your mind, 'Liam told his assistant, Tammy, that he just came out of a meeting where he asked his boss if Tammy could work flexible hours. He told her his boss said, 'No'. I just came out of the same meeting and he didn't even bring it up for discussion.'
Once you get an inkling that something isn't right, the evidence rolls in to keep your hunch.
Liam is at his most perilous when he truly believes his own lies and he can't differentiate fact from fiction.
You can't beat a liar as no matter what tact you take they will lie their way out of the situation. They don't care who they take down in the process as long as they keep their power.
To avoid being trapped in Liam the Liar's lair of deceit, it's important that as soon as you eye his first lie you call him on it. Occasionally, a mediated group intervention is required whereby a whole of population must confront him about his behaviour. He may believe he's still right, but he will be forced to see that a few of you are on to him.
Liam's success is based on the fact that although we all know he's lying, we rarely challenge him about it.
++ The Mean Girls ++
It doesn't say much for the sisterhood, but 99% of the time the office meanies are women.
They are malicious on their own, but in packs they are invincible. Occasionally you can divide and conquer. I remember telling one office Meanie an idea and she acknowledged it was an excellent concept. When I presented it in a meeting her fellow Meanies acted like I'd just said, "Tomorrow I'd like to use your children as sacrificial lambs and burn them at the stake." She did not say a thing, there was no "Belinda spoke to me about the initiative and I didn't think it was too bad." She couldn't even throw me a bone. She sat in silence while her fellow Meanies beat me up.
In one company I called them the 'trifecta of trouble'. Three women who were so evil, that if you tried to stand up for yourself, they'd victimise you ten-fold. In fact, I'm sure one of them truly vandalised my car after a particularly nasty bout.
Occasionally the Mean Girls eat their own. If the group is cornered, and there is no way out, they will reduce one of the clan. always done behind their back, they usually forgo the man who is on holiday or sick leave.
The Mean Girls are the ones who don't ask you to the pub after work. If you see them sipping wine at the local and make an effort to be friendly they bare their teeth to make it clear you're not welcome.
If you get in the lift with them and say a cheery "Good morning", their response is shutout silence.
They voyage in packs at lunch, tea breaks, smoke-o and communal occasions. The 'Welcome' mat is never out. Their nails are excellent talons development them ideal backstabbing weapons. If you didn't fear for your life, you'd place bowls of milk on their desk each morning to remind them how catty they are.
Their cunning ensures they massage the egos of the right population so they fly under the radar. They always have a protector, and if that man is thrown to the lions they quickly adopt a new leader. Usually, man who is so grateful to no longer be victimised that they are willing to be the fall-guy (or gal) when the next 'cat'astrophe hits.
Mean Girls are terrible bullies, yet nobody seems to do whatever about them, allowing them to continue their bad behaviour. The few who have stood up to them are either cowering messes or resign because administration doesn't take their complaints seriously.
++ Gossiping Gail ++
If you want to spread data nearby the organisation, have a quiet conversation with Gossiping Gail. Need it spread sooner rather than later? Say it's a secret.
Gossipers often have empty lives so they focus on everyone else's. They are the investigative reporters of the corporate world, enduringly digging to find the latest on their colleagues. Gails are very creative; if what they've discovered isn't juicy sufficient they have excellent ornamentation skills.
Gail is the equivalent of the 6 o'clock news. She only focuses on the bad stuff. If you happily share that you're pregnant, it doesn't pass her lips. If you tell her you're pregnant and are considering an abortion, you may as well put it on the office Intranet.
You will truly recognize Gossiping Gail as she rarely speaks at full volume. She communicates the latest news in whispers and appears to have a tick as she enduringly checks over her shoulder to make sure no one else hears. Personally, I don't see why she is so worried about who may be standing behind her listening, as she'll finally tell them anyway. Maybe she just wants you to think you're getting an exclusive.
Gossiping Gail is fuelled by your willingness to listen.
*** How to cope this situation ***
^ Mind
Ideally we'd like our colleagues to buy into the, "do unto others as you would have them do to you" ideology. Unfortunately, many don't, so you have to answer that we're all different. If Gossiping Gail comes near you, be clear that you're not open to that type of discussion. Don't entertain Liam the Liar's rubbish for even one second and be professional with the Mean Girls, but have slight interaction beyond that.
^ Body
Each of these characters attempts to diminish your power. There's no time for slouching or uncertainty when talking to them, let your body language show you're not to be messed with. It's a case of stand tall, shoulders back.
^Spirit
It's arresting to convert the behaviour of others, so in dealing with these characters I propose adopting Reinhold Niebuhr's Serenity Prayer, "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to convert the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference."
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